I’ve been reading a fair bit about startups (revisiting Paul Graham of course) , not that wehuhu is a real startup. This Christmas eve I was humbled and reminded me particularly of rule #10 of Evhead’s rules of startup.
I found a letter to me screwed up in the rubbish I was clearing up last night (Christmas eve), it was written by my wife (Ruth) to me on Christmas eve, it was a rant in true Ruth style, and was particularly colourful!

Shit!!!
Why…..
I’ve been polishing up the Wehuhu app that me and Ruth have been using for a while to manage our personal finances and project forward our budget. I recently mentioned it on twitter to get some feedback, I think others will findd it usefull.
I’ve been working on Wehuhu most weekend and evenings for a while, recently getting 3-4 hours sleep a night. It was Christmas eve and I was absolutely knackered and suggested I had a sleep in the evening before Ruth waking me up to do the stockings and final wrapping (the boys HDTV for the XBox - essential to get HDTV with consoles btw!)
Ruth was whacked too from working and sorting Christmas and didn’t like my suggestion. I was tired, the subsequent discussion didn’t go well, I ended up marching off upstairs to wrap Ruths presents, which allowed me to calm down. Ruth wrote this whilst I was upstairs, but then she decided to bin it, and not say much to me directly, probably a good call.
I know I get short when I get tired - I didn’t realise how angry she felt with me, until I read this and man I am really glad I did.
It was a wake up call to me that my work \ project \ home life balance was fucked, Christmas morning began with the kids coming in at 7 and me feeling very apologetic. I was mainly forgiven and we were able to enjoy the kids stocking (sacks really) opening, Christmas turned out cool, and I’m pretty sure I will have learned my lesson. Ruth is ok for me to share this with others perhaps as a warning for all us geeks working too hard not to take our amazing family support for granted.
If you didnt follw the link rule #10 is ‘Be Balanced’
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